The Root

I've been struggling for some time with the reason that I love food so much.  I don't like that I do, and I'm getting back to my heaviest point again.  I could simply blame it on the fact that I have not been able to run in a year, but don't think that I'd be much different if I was able to run.

Am I filling a void?  Am I finding my identity in the food? Should I be giving more of me to the Lord (pun intended)?  Am I addicted to food?

It frustrates me that as I've really been leaning into and praying about the issue, I'm simply getting fatter.  I find myself tempted by the commercials for this program and that program.  I've lost weight before (40 pounds a few years back) and they are almost all back with me now.

Lord, search my heart.  Find the root and pull the bugger out.  I'm ready for a change, I need to know what it is.

Conflicted on conflict

Growing up, and even through high school and college (and grad school) I was never a reader.  I've gone through spurts of reading and really enjoy taking the appropriate time to read.

I've come to realize that good books are dangerous for me.  When I say good books, I don't mean a good Harry Potter story or a nice romance novel, but books that are Biblical and practical for where I am in life (and for my friend Jeff, don't have a picture of the author on the cover).  Recently, I've gotten back into some reading, picking up some books by some of today's popular "theologians" to get their take on stuff and see what the buzz is about.

I'm also continuing my pursuit of a Master's from Fuller and am on my way to Colorado for a week's intensive class, which has required me to read a book with an interesting title by an author I had not heard of.  Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Peter Scazzero. I have to admit that I was a bit skeptical and it sounded a little hokie to me, but I've quite enjoyed it.  It has some shortfalls I know, but if viewed within the correct context, offers some helpful tips.

Here comes the dangerous part.  Parts of the book talk about allowing God to work through emotion instead of stuffing it back and acting like it's not there. 

For about 7 months, I've had a conflict in my life.  I've done my best to seek wise counsel, pray and be patient through the process.  It's had multiple flare-ups through the time and I've 'known' that more are coming.  Today I received communication from the other person asking to put the incident behind and move forward.

I'm now conflicted by what seems wise advice to proceed with caution, and other wise advice to forgive and forget. 
Part of me would like to just move on, part of me would like to make sure there is accountability.
Part of me wants to trust that this isn't a ploy, part of me can't.
Part of me wants to just ignore it, but I know I can't do that.
All of me desires to be God-honoring in handling this situation.


Thus I am conflicted on conflict.

Stuff

Do you like stuff? What stuff do you have that you could do without? Is your stuff well used? Organized? Burdensome?

This is a difficult thing to think about, as my society and the environment I grew up in placed a lot of value on stuff.  In my family I am known to be a bit of a gadgeteer, enjoying all things electronic.

As I've matured (especially in the last few years) I've learned how unimportant stuff is.  Moving a few times helped us realize how much stuff we had that we didn't use, and I'm sure that there is plenty of that stuff still sitting around.  Fortunately, I am blessed enough to be married to a non-stuff person, who organizes the stuff that doesn't get tossed.  She has taught me well.

I even alphabetized my books the other day!

Girls' Night IN!

I'm a bit late getting this one out, but going back in time a bit to New Year's Eve....the guys (Daddys and little boys) went out to dinner and a Suns' game so the Mommys and girls enjoyed some fun at home. We brought in Pei Wei for dinner, gave each other pedicures (with our new nail polishes from our stockings), watched the movie Ramona and Beezus while munching on popcorn, dipped bananas and marshmellows in chocolate fondue and sipped sparkling apple cider! Oh, and we can't forget the wild pillow fight that Kate and Makaila finished the night with.

Kate and Makaila were SO excited about the girls' night! They got in pjs before they even ate dinner and posted the title of the movie on a small portable white board. There were tons of giggles throughout the night. The biggest surprise, though, was the smallest little girl, Kara. It was as if she understood that this was a special night just for us girls. She snuggled in the blanket with the girls during the movie (only for a few short minutes at a time, but frequently), ate several bowls of popcorn, quite enjoyed the chocolate dipped bananas and showed off her dance moves while standing on a small piece of furniture! She did NOT want to go to bed, staying in great spirits well past her normal bedtime. I do believe that a girls' night should be a part of every Swank-Baker visit!

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My wife is a wonderful mother. Enough said.

January Reflections '11--Marriage

Steadfast

This word seems bland, boring and maybe not a great way to describe one's marriage.  2010 was a difficult year in the Baker house and at times it felt as if we were just surviving and not thriving.

The year began with me breaking and having major surgery on my leg, while my wife juggled work, taking care of me and our 3 kids, one of them only 3 months old.  We went into a season of difficulty from some people outside of our family and then to be honest, I wasn't the best husband and father, allowing the above things to affect my mood and personality.

So, while steadfast is not a sexy word, my wonderful (sexy) wife and her love this year was steadfast.  Don't worry this will not be the word for 2011

More Blogging

I steal a lot.  A lot of ideas at least.  Stole these from a freind and a friend of a friend.

Going to try a couple of bloggings for this month.  One is January Reflections 11 found here.

The other is PostADay/PostAWeek found here, I'm trying the PostAWeek version, maybe if I get aggressive try the daily one later.

New Year New Budget??

OK, so I had this idea and wanted to share since typically this is the time of year when people look to get their finances in order.

One thing that Rachelle and I have always done fairly well is budget.  We have a good idea of what's going on financially in the house and have kept tabs on different programs throughout the years.

With my new job and 3 kids, we've found it increasingly difficult to keep track of the monies, as taking the time to sit down and imput and categorize was too daunting of a task.

We wanted something that made it more simple to keep track of our finances but still help us reign in the areas that we felt we were losing a bit of control over. 

The form here for Excel and here for PDF allow you to get a glance of how we generally divide our outflow and keep track of it.

So when we get home from spending money, we X out the appropriate number of dollars we spent (for example, if we spend $50 on groceries, then we would X out ten $5 spots--if we spend $52 then we X-out ten $5 spots and then put 2 check marks in the next box)

It helps us to see when we have been spending too much in any one category and then we can reign in the spending.

One thing that we don't do any more is keep track of fixed expenses (cell phone, internet, etc...) and know that those are a part of what goes out, but it's not helpful with this system since it is the same every month.  The purpose of this system is to keep tabs on the categories that we could easily go over the amount (groceries, eating out, entertainment, etc...)

If you have any questions/ideas, I'd love to chat.

Happy New Year

This Year...

OK, so I set myself some blogging goals for this last month, and accomplished them!  I finished the class and shared a picture of the day every day.  Looking back I see that some were good, some were not and some were just ok, but they seemed to get better as I took my hundreds of pictures this month and enjoyed learning.

Now I am wondering if there is any other goal, or project or challenge out there to help keep me in the blogging mood.  Anyone?